One of my grandmothers, my dad’s mom, passed away last week. Last night we had a visitation and this morning was the funeral.
Today I drank several teas; YS Assamica gold needle black, YS Fou Shou Wuyi oolong, and YS Shan Hou sheng.
I will miss my grandma greatly, and funerals are of course no fun (I would like a very casual/non-traditional funeral when I pass) but it was great to see the many family members and family friends that I normally only see at Christmas or not at all.
We had a gathering after the funeral at my dad’s house and enjoyed some of my grandma’s favorite foods and drinks; Cuban sandwiches, wine, Millano cookies, and brandy Alexanders. It was a great time reminiscing and reconnecting.
I brewed some dian hong and shared it with a few people, all of whom enjoyed it. One said “It’s kind of like Earl Grey… but better!”
It was all quite nice until everyone had left but my uncle, cousin, and grandpa (who lives with my uncle in Texas). My dad and uncle went to see my grandparents nearby house which is for sale. When the came back the were screaming at each other with wide variety of expletives. My dad and uncle have had a rocky relationship for a long time, and both were slightly drunk, but things broke down to a shouting match and my dad told my uncle never to set foot in his house again.
It was gut wrenching and really hard to watch after my grandma’s funeral. Me and my younger cousin could do nothing but stand by and watch. My dad was crying and grandpa tried to console him. All in all a beautiful day ruined.
I turned to wine until I found myself a bit tipsy and then went for some strong young sheng. I think I’ll cook dinner tonight and try to console my dad.
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I’m sorry for your loss. Lossing a grandparent is truly the end of an era. It’s unfortunate the events that followed must have added a great deal of additional stress. Hopefully, cooler heads will prevail after they’ve had time to cool off and to think about constructive solutions to their conflict. Perhaps a third party they both respect could assist them to resolve their disagreement?
My condolences to you. It’s a hard hard thing.
Unfortunately, death brings out all the family disagreements and splinters which manage to be carefully hidden in normal times. A very sad thing but common in so many families.
I hope all this can be peacefully resolved.
Agreed. Very well stated.
My friend from a long ways back. I can feel for you. My family has seemed to split after my fathers passing. I have done what I could to keep them together but it is to no avail. Maybe one day. I will put you in my prayers for peace and comfort as this is a hard time to go through. If you need anything you know how to get in touch with me if you need to.
Sending prayers your way.
So sorry to hear about the loss and strife. Strength and comfort to you and your family.
Thank you all for your support. Hopefully the disagreements will cool down with time.
Sorry to hear about your loss. It’s very unfortunate to hear about your father’s falling out with your uncle. I hope they can find it in their hearts to overcome this. Sending good thoughts.
Tperez, I am so sorry. My heart goes out to you at this time. Remember all the happy things about your grandmother as a tribute to her, remember all the times she was strong and all the times she was loving, and know that it is still in you, all that she gave. Everything is changing all the time. I will be praying for your comfort and that the bad situation will change. I have seen relatives make peace after complete breaks, even tho it took time, it did finally come about. Until then, peace to you all, and hugs from my soul to yours.
Amen. Simply beautiful.
I’m sorry for your loss. Lossing a grandparent is truly the end of an era. It’s unfortunate the events that followed must have added a great deal of additional stress. Hopefully, cooler heads will prevail after they’ve had time to cool off and to think about constructive solutions to their conflict. Perhaps a third party they both respect could assist them to resolve their disagreement?
My condolences to you. It’s a hard hard thing.
Unfortunately, death brings out all the family disagreements and splinters which manage to be carefully hidden in normal times. A very sad thing but common in so many families.
I hope all this can be peacefully resolved.
Agreed. Very well stated.
My friend from a long ways back. I can feel for you. My family has seemed to split after my fathers passing. I have done what I could to keep them together but it is to no avail. Maybe one day. I will put you in my prayers for peace and comfort as this is a hard time to go through. If you need anything you know how to get in touch with me if you need to.
Sending prayers your way.
So sorry to hear about the loss and strife. Strength and comfort to you and your family.
Thank you all for your support. Hopefully the disagreements will cool down with time.
Sorry to hear about your loss. It’s very unfortunate to hear about your father’s falling out with your uncle. I hope they can find it in their hearts to overcome this. Sending good thoughts.
Tperez, I am so sorry. My heart goes out to you at this time. Remember all the happy things about your grandmother as a tribute to her, remember all the times she was strong and all the times she was loving, and know that it is still in you, all that she gave. Everything is changing all the time. I will be praying for your comfort and that the bad situation will change. I have seen relatives make peace after complete breaks, even tho it took time, it did finally come about. Until then, peace to you all, and hugs from my soul to yours.
Amen. Simply beautiful.